You don't have to look very far to find some oft-repeated divorce myths. You may have seen them in print. You may have heard them from friends. You may even have been told these myths by people who already got divorced and sound like they know what they're talking about.
Even so, they are just myths, and it's important not to rely on misinformation when considering your own relationship and/or divorce.
With that in mind, let's break down a few of the more common ones:
- 50% of married couples get divorced. Projections decades ago indicated that the divorce rate could hit 50%. It is not at 50% right now. One out of every two couples you know will not file for divorce. This is an easy statistic to remember, despite being inaccurate, which is why it gets repeated so often.
- You're less likely to get divorced if you "test" the marriage with cohabitation. Many couples choose to live together before marriage for convenience or to reduce the financial burden of living separately -- but don't think that cohabitation before marriage makes divorce unlikely. You can live together for as long as you want before tying the knot and still end up getting divorced.
- Marriage should be easy and feeling unhappy definitely means divorce is coming. It doesn't. People are often unhappy, work through it, and stay married. It's also wise to remember that marriage takes work and it is hard. What really leads to divorce is the unrealistic expectation that it should be easy.
If you are getting divorced, having accurate information is critical. Make sure you know as much as you can about the legal process of divorce.