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If I don't want a divorce, can I stop it?

One of the most common questions about divorce comes from those who don't want to split up. For instance, maybe your spouse told you that they think you should end the marriage and they plan to file for divorce. You want to stay together and work things out. Can you prevent or stop the divorce? Do you have any say in this process?

No-fault divorce

If a payor gets remarried, does alimony change?

Alimony is designed to help support a spouse who depended on their ex for financial support and lost that through the divorce. Naturally, if the person receiving the alimony gets remarried and has another source of support, this means that alimony may change or end.

After all, alimony recognizes that a divorce may be unfair for one partner. Traditionally, this outlook has applied to women who were financially dependent on their husbands. In the modern era, though, women tend to be more active in the workforce and can and do earn more than their husbands. This means that modern alimony can work in either direction if there is a significant disadvantage to either party.

Your child wants to live with your ex. Now what?

When you and your ex got divorced, you had a very young child. The court did not consider what the child wanted, on the grounds that they were too young, but just decided on what was in their best interests. That meant they lived with you most of the time and saw your ex on the weekends.

Now your child is older and they've told you that they want more time with their other parent. They'd like to go live with your ex. What now?

Let's bust some common divorce myths

You don't have to look very far to find some oft-repeated divorce myths. You may have seen them in print. You may have heard them from friends. You may even have been told these myths by people who already got divorced and sound like they know what they're talking about.

Even so, they are just myths, and it's important not to rely on misinformation when considering your own relationship and/or divorce.

Does your spouse need to agree to a divorce?

You and your spouse haven't seen eye-to-eye regarding your relationship in a long time. That's part of why you're filing for divorce. However, you also are not on the same page regarding the split. Your spouse thinks you should not get divorced and says they'll never agree to it.

Does that matter? Do you need them to agree? Or is the divorce in your hands?

Protection orders can help put an end to your abuse

If there's one thing that you should know about abuse, it's that even if it's not physical, it can leave a lasting impression on both you and your kids' lives. It can leave you a shell of the person you once were, taking away your zest for life. You don't have to let abuse ruin your life, though. A restraining order can help you put an end to it.

Two primary types of protection orders exist in Massachusetts, each with unique eligibility requirements.

Does life get more expensive after a divorce?

Many people complain about not being able to afford their lifestyle after a divorce, and they find it rather perplexing. If they got a fair division of assets with their ex, why does it suddenly seem like life is more expensive?

For one thing, many of your bills remain the same amount, but you no longer split them because you're living in separate homes.

Do you have a useless prenup?

Your spouse asks you for a divorce, and you count your lucky stars that you have a prenuptial agreement. At least your financial assets are protected, right?

Maybe, but it could turn out that your prenup is useless. If it doesn't hold up in court, the judge can throw it out and then nothing that you agreed to is going to help you.

Should your children call your ex when they're with you?

Splitting custody is tough, and not just for the children. It can also be hard on the parents. How much communication should happen with the parent who doesn't have custody?

For instance, perhaps you and your ex have an every-other-week schedule. On the weeks that the children live with you, should your children call your ex? Should your ex call them? Is this communication helpful?

The positive side of divorce

People often focus on the difficult parts of a divorce. They talk about having trouble dividing their assets or their time with the children. They worry about the future financial impact of going down to one income. They wonder how to break the news to people who are close to them. Older couples may worry about their retirement plans if they split up.

All of these are important areas to consider, but don't assume that divorce is all negative. There are some potential positive outcomes, as well, and it's wise to consider them.

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